Talking to Your Young Person in a Supportive Way

When a child or teen is struggling (with food, body image, or emotions), it’s natural to want to jump in with solutions. But “just do it” or “you need to fix this” can feel overwhelming and shut down conversation. Instead, supportive communication builds trust, safety, and confidence. Here are ways to talk to your young person:

What to Try Saying

• “I can see this feels really hard for you. I’m here with you.”

• “How can I support you right now?”

• “I notice you’re finding this meal/tricky moment tough. Let’s take it one step at a time.”

• “It’s okay to feel what you’re feeling. You don’t have to go through it alone.”

• “I’m proud of the small steps you’re taking — they matter.”

What to Avoid

• “Just eat it / Just do it.”

• “Why can’t you be normal?” “You need to fix this.”

• “Other kids your age don’t have this problem.”

• “You’re making this harder than it needs to be.”

Supportive Strategies

• Validate first, problem-solve later → Show you understand before offering advice.

• Be curious, not critical → Ask questions gently instead of giving orders.

• Notice effort, not just outcomes → Praise the trying, not only the finishing.

• Model calmness → Your tone matters as much as your words.

• Keep the door open → “I’m here when you’re ready to talk.”

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Remember: Supportive communication doesn’t mean fixing everything for them. It means creating a safe space where your young person feels understood, not judged.